Get Lost Kid!🤐
Another anthology of poems. Related to how we as a society treat children as sub-human.

*This writing block got a little bit out of hand, to put it mildly. I meant to address the importance of staying connected and present for your children. However, I wandered off on many tangents, all relating to how children are oppressed by their parents and by society. Oh, and a brief section on proposed prison reform and infertility vaccines. 😂

Parcelled Out, Love 🎁
Inconsistent connections,
Diminishing rejections.
Parcelled out love.
Coddling, overprotective.
Making them soft.
Sensitivity abolishment,
Hugs enumerated,
Allotted.

You Know Better!🤨
No explanation, no lesson.
Do as you’re told, without question!
No conversation, no interjection!
Above all else, “No objection.” 🫡

*Have conversations. Do not expect blind obedience. Allow your children a voice. Welcome debate and respectful discourse. This will teach children how to effectively communicate. It will empower them. Their voice is not ignored or silenced. And also compromise whenever possible. Show flexibility.

Do as I say without question, when parenting. I know best.🤫 jk!

Not Seen, Not Heard🤐
“Be seen and not heard!”
What you say, is so absurd!
A mere child’s thoughts,
Of little matter.
Silly, mindless, chitter-chatter.
Be quiet, obey, stay in line!
Your input, so asinine. 
Consideration not given.
Interrupting, unforgiven.
Authority never questioned. 🫡
No compromise, no suggestion.
A silencing, stifling, oppression.

The Right to Space
So privileged just to exist!
The audacity you have to persist,
Here in MY space!
Your presence, so out of place,
In this home. Designed for me alone.
No patch of floor to call your own.
Hinges taken off of doors.
Privacy, an earned reward.
Personal space, to not afford.

*some parents and caregivers deny their children their own space as punishment. This should be considered child abuse, imo. FFS, it’s so messed up. For one, I don’t condone punishing children. It is not needed. There is such a thing as natural consequences and boundary setting. There’s never a need to deprive our younger people of their autonomy, as a punishment. I’m not talking about families who have limited space. Where children share bedrooms. That’s completely different. Also, where you live should feel like your home. A place where you belong. You should not feel as if you are a visitor. As if you are given a favour to be allowed to live there.

My House, MY Rules!
“While under MY roof!!!”
Do as I say!
If you want to stay,
You must obey!

*I’ve never understood parents say this to their children. Isn’t it the child’s home as well? They’re essentially saying that their child’s right to shelter is contingent on their blind obedience to authority. They’re also saying that the home they live in is not theirs. They are merely squatters, only they have no rights. Imagine how it feels to be a visitor in someone’s home and be made to feel unwelcome. And this is a child without any power. 18 years of feeling like you don’t belong.

The Right to Have Belongings
Entertainments confiscated,
Social lifelines, disconnected.
Comforts taken, restricted.
Belongings broken smashed.
Precious belongings, taken back, trashed.
What was given, relinquished.
Autonomy, devalued. Extinguished.
Obey! Obey! Obey!
Or all you value gets taken away!
Not a thing to call your own.
No shred of dignity ever shown.

Spoiled Brats *Sigh, the ways we dehumanize children.
Spoiled child, winey
Too much attention!
Dirty fingers, slimy. Gross.
Spilling juice, dropping, breaking!
Such a nuisance, no escaping! *Poor you, they’re such a burden.😒

*Isn’t it all so god-damn absurd? Do little people not deserve to exist without being sent the message that their grown-ups are doing them a huge favor by providing them with the necessities they need to live???? Do parents really deserve so much appreciation? Did your nuisance of a “crotch goblin,” ask to be born? Yes, I’ve heard of children referred to in such obscene ways. It’s disgusting. Fill your cup; as a parent, that’s important. But do not make your child feel like their needs are infringing on your ability to be happy. These kids are vulnerable. They can’t survive without their caregivers.

And also, why do we expect children and teens to behave as if they are already adults? Can we ever just cut them some slack? Is punishment needed for developmentally appropriate behaviour? Shouldn’t we be teaching them how to self-regulate themselves? How does deregulating them through fear and pain help them learn?

Why so much lack of respect for our younger people? It’s like they don’t deserve to be treated with dignity on the basis that they are undeveloped humans.

It’s okay to make parenting mistakes; sometimes, there are barriers to being able to provide the best care you can. However, how does it hurt you, to apologize and make amends? It is a huge step towards healing, for all parties.

*I wonder sometimes, why there seems to be so much resentment and mistrust towards children. It almost seems sometimes that a lot of society hates kids. It’s so bizarre. I see evidence of this on comment threads on topics concerning kids or on family blogs. Literally demonizing an innocent child. Making it out like they are bad and deserving of harsh punishments when they are only behaving as children behave. Not even doing anything wrong, or simply being a toddler. Yet the adults assume these kids have ill intentions. It’s even worse for teenagers. It’s like everyone forgets they are still developing into adults. They cannot possibly be perfect little robots. They will make mistakes. Good God!

Philosophical Musings
*See me😊
I’ve only begun drafting this dreaded poem, but I’m struck by the realization that it is not surprising that, as adults, we are desperately seeking external validation. We are so desirous to be seen and acknowledged that some of us post twenty or more times in one day via social media.

I’ve been guilty of various kinds of attention-seeking, via social media. I tried to do so honestly. I would share my opinions about social injustice topics extensively. That was my thing. I have eased up on that. It can be too much. The message becomes lost.

But I digress.

To be brushed aside does soul damage to a child. To be treated as an unwanted annoyance takes away a ‘little person’s’ self-worth. You are not valued. Your needs are not important. They would rather you were not around. Social media is a great observational point to study the effects of being a disconnected child.

*A little person’s needs, should not be resentfully provided, and it should go without saying their needs should always be provided.

*Infertility Vaccine.
And I get it. Parenting is hard. Honestly, my infertility vaccine idea should be implemented. It can be reversed after taking my seven-step parenting class. This is NOT eugenics. Because anyone, regardless of their income, can take the course and become a parent. Obviously, race, gender identity, and sexual orientation are not considerations. That goes without saying, in my utopian world where everything is fair. And a comprehensive education is paramount.

I once again, digress.

Little people need a lot of hugs and cuddles. It is not good to expect children to raise themselves. To not inquire. To not be curious. And sometimes the parent should decide things, not the undeveloped person. And when they ask for help, help needs to be given. No matter how small the need is, the need must be met. And without protest, without aggravated sighs, without unloving hands.

*Is anyone accountable for their actions?
I have come to believe that people are not responsible for their actions. I know, “such a bold assertion,” right? But think about it like this. We are formed into the people we are due to factors beyond our control. Our genetics, our childhood traumas, and every single one of our experiences make us, us. All our encounters and all the information we process in our brains, whether right or wrong, make us the people that we are right now. Yes, I’m a determinist, that should be obvious by now. It doesn’t mean we should all throw in the towel and give up. It doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be accountability. It doesn’t mean society shouldn’t be protected. Even criminals can’t help being who they are, but we should still protect society from them, right?

*Prison Reform
Institutions should be much more humane. The criminals are already being punished by being shunned from society. And there should be distinct kinds of prisons. Violent offenders need their own prison. Jayda and I have a Prison Reform plan for the government.

• Every prison has a mall; keep in mind that everything is free. (There could be a similar amenity.)

• There are restaurants. Free

• Pets are allowed. (this would be nice to actually happen)

• Everyone is allowed one horse, but you can put in an application for another one. Equine therapy has been used in prisons and has been effective.

• Everyone has a nice apartment. Kids allowed. Can put in an application for a nicer house. Someone does it for you. Automatically approved of course.

• Free quality childcare and schooling for prisoner’s children (yes this should happen, Irl)

• Parks and playgrounds, trees, nature, gardening(reasonable)

• Obviously, they are allowed television and music

• A movie theater, free. This could be possible.

• No for-profit prisons!

• Arts. Self-expression through creativity. Of course!

• Vacations and field trips.

The message to be gleaned from this outlandish prison reform is that criminals should be treated like the human beings they are. If you treat people like animals, they become animals. And even animals should be treated well, obviously. Oh also, prisoners should be allowed to vote! What a dehumanizing policy! That disgusts me.

Wow, my philosophical musings have wandered through many pathways. What an adventure! 🧭🏕🎢🛶🛳✈️🚀🛸🧳🪂

*In conclusion: parent the way I say you should!

The most important message that I think should be taken from my meandering musings, is to Stay connected with your children. When they are older, they will come to you. They will not be afraid to ask for help when things go sideways. They will not feel so alone. They will not seek their connections elsewhere, with peers who have the same problems, who they will trauma bond with. Because they need that close, loving, relationship and connection for their development. If they are not receiving that loving bond with their caregivers they will seek out peers who can fill that role.

Always ask children first, if they want a hug. Don’t force them to hug family members. Teach by example. Btw, all this is covered in my seven-step parenting class, to have your sterility vaccine reversed. 😂

Actually, a good portion of the world’s problems would be solved by simply sterilizing all the men. Then if they want a child, they have to take stringent exams first to qualify as a parent.  Then and only then, will their sterilization be allowed to be reversed. And to be fair, women or child-bearing men would also have to take courses before pregnancy will be permitted.  However, even if we only focused on men’s fertility, that in itself would affect the most positive outcomes for society.

I’m not sure why we allow just any old person to become a parent. Although, I do see the problem with trying to enforce any parenting mandates. That would be viewed as fascism. We need a licence to drive, do we not? Shouldn’t we have some basic parenting standards that must be upheld? Shouldn’t we have to at least take a class first? Why aren’t children a priority? 😡👊 My solution: punching people who disagree!